Essential Relating

About Love and Being

Being aware of our behaviour in relating to others can give us a sense of serenity, presence and relaxation. So we can reconnnect the essential qualities of love, compassion and respect for others and ourselves.

Well-being in our relationships and the ability to relate in a serene and mature way is directly connected with knowing our inner world and us.

Parts of our inner world are both the essential quality of our Being and the intricate and distorted strategies of the Ego.
Essential Relating is the journey of awareness through this fascinating inner world.

With an experiential approach we explore and bring understanding to the different aspect of our personality that generate dysfunctional relating behaviours and gradually accede to the deeper levels of our Being.

Essential Relating is a soft and deep work, which applied not only to relationship with lovers (husband and wife) but also to relationship between parents and children and relationship in the workplace.

These workshops are for people or couples who want to bring in their relationship awareness and authenticity, and who see a relationship as a way to grow, as an opportunity to heal the wounds of the past and to create a trust for the present.

Although single workshops are conceived as independent modules, participation to the whole process predisposes to a more profound experience and gradual integration of issues.

This process is developed in five complementary stages:

• Essential Relating 1: Codependency and inner child
  • Co-dependence is a condition in which our lack of trust and self-love creates an inability to have love in our life.
    
    As Co-dependent, we try to find an another person to fill our feelings of emptiness and unworthiness or we avoid closeness altogether because of fears of losing ourselves or being rejected.
    
    Codependency patterns find theirs roots in the «inner child» that we carry deep inside us.
    
    He represents the aspect of vitality, innocence, trust and vulnerability which has been wounded and repressed during our childhood.
    
    In this workshop we will explore the state of mind of the emotional child. It is the space of a frightened, insecure and mistrusting child covered over by a compensating adult. We will learn to recognize and to be aware of the fears and reactions of that emotional child through different appropriate exercises and meditations.
    
    Once we become aware of our patterns and behaviors that we reproduce in our daily life, we will learn to accept them and to befriend them.
• Essential Relating 2: From fear to intimacy
  • Codependency finds its roots in deep fears experienced during our childhood, which have become the base of our personality. During this workshop we will look at the origin of this fears exploring the Inner Judge and the fears that generate in us: Shock and Shame.
    
    We will discover and experience our wounded «inner child». We open the door to
    profound inner feelings.
    
    By contacting and expressing this feelings we will learn the language of intimacy and bring awareness on the sources of conflicts and difficulties that we carry in our adult relationship.
    
    We will rediscover our essential qualities and we will create healthy and true foundations for love.
• Essential Relating 3: Beyond Needs and Abandonment
  • In our relationship we project our deep and unconscious desires of being recognized, loved and understood. We almost expect the other to be available for us unconditionally.
    
    When our needs to be loved and receive attention have not being fulfilled in our childhood, we keep on feeling as adults an inner sense of neediness, aloneness and abandonment. Our unconscious expectations of love drive us to repetitive and painful, destructive behaviors.
    
    During this workshop, through exercises and meditation, we will create a space of awareness and acceptance for ourself to go back to express our request of love in a mature a conscious way, without making the other responsible for our happiness.
    
    From this space we can reconnect with our essential qualities of love, compassion and respect for our partners and ourselves.
• Essential Relating 4 : Conscious relating
  • In our relationships we aspire to create equilibrium and harmony in encountering the other. Very often, our aspiration is betrayed by our own behaviour and expectations, which unintentionally lead us to generate and experience conflicts, disappointment and frustration. Despite our efforts, we are continuously repeating the same painful mechanisms.
    
    In this workshop, we will identify difficulties and obstacles in relating and look at the dynamics of the relation itself.
    
    We can learn specific tools and modes to solve conflicts, while learning to define limits and express our needs in a clear and simple way.
• Essential Relating 5 : The Art of loving
  • Man and woman are basically different in their nature. Culture and education contribute to making these differences even wider, cultivating intolerance for diversities and hindering the natural union of these two polarities.
    
    In this workshop we will explore how automatic behaviour and belief-system influence our couple relations. We will learn how to communicate with the other beyond prejudice and fear, with honesty, integrity and reliability. We will learn how to respect and appreciate the natural rhythm of the relation, combining the serene harmony of the “union”, love and vitality of the separation, “meditation".